How to meditate?

Meditation -The quick guide for the busy people (3.05) -by norbert szentkereszti (

01. What is meditation?

Don’t think …………………….… and if you can “do” that or rather if you can live and experience that without any efforts when there is no need to think, you don’t have to read further, because the meditative state is when you live without a thought crossing your mind, which means that if you don’t think you meditate. (Please note that “not thinking” does not mean that you will follow insane orders (except if you want to) or it does not mean that you are undereducated, who cannot make any decisions on his/her own. It simply means that you live your life (or at least some portion of your life) without thinking relying upon your feelings.)

Many people would define meditation differently and they would say that if you do mantras or if you concentrate on a single point of your body or in reality if you concentrate on anything that surrounds you or if you sit in a certain position you do meditation, but those exercises are there only to focus your mind on a single point and to observe. Some even suggests that it is OK to let your mind wander freely while “meditating” or rather while being in an “officially approved” position, because according to their ideas your mind will slowly stop on its own accord. Well I’m not sure about this method, although I would say that accept every thoughts that occur while doing your exercises, but at the same time I would also suggest trying out various methods to stop those occurrences.

In reality to get into the “advanced” meditative state apart from stopping your thinking you also have to “stop” monitoring whether you stopped your thoughts or not, because if you focus towards your head with the goal of checking whether your mind is empty of thoughts or not you put yourself again in a box and thus you restrict yourself which means that you cannot fully be in the present moment (or you experience a rather dull-like present moment). (Those “boxed” like present moments are kind of dead present moments (especially if you don’t feel yourself alright), where usually people also numb their emotions and where people are closed to adventures). How can you experience life if you are constantly watching yourself? This is not how children do it. They are looking at the word with bright eyes and they want to discover it, or rather they discover it without wanting. Those mindfully “watch every of your movements” exercises might be good in the beginning to help you to be more focused (so don’t quit doing them now since they are good exercises to bring you closer to the present), but later you also have to drop them. (These are the exercises when you report in real time what you are doing and what is happening around you so if you say things like e.g.: “Now I’m opening the box, and I’m taking out this…”, or “Now I’m washing the dishes while a dog barks under my window…” or “I slowly put my left foot before my right foot”…). These are useful exercises but if you want to learn rather from the children (not from the children who you already conditioned, but the really small ones, who cannot even walk and talk), observe how they do it. They can teach you (without the goal of teaching) by simply showing an example, and you just have to copy them by paying attention to the way they interact with the world and for that all you have to do is observing the way they live their life and in that how they evolve (even though they are approaching the thinking process, and you want to experience (again but consciously) the state where you can exist without thoughts). Naturally you can also learn from the older children (but also from everyone) especially if they question pointless rules, and force you to change point of views…

To get into the total present moment a state-switch is necessary where monitoring the self does not exist. For the state-switch stopping your thoughts (or rather leaving your thoughts behind) is a prerequisite, and if you can “do” that, so if you live without thoughts you are only in phase one. The 2nd phase is when you dropped monitoring yourself (so you stopped monitoring whether you have thoughts or not), and this state is the state of the newborn child with the difference that you experienced also the mind and consciousness (which is by the way a huge difference) therefore you can knowingly and purposefully create but you can also knowingly and purposefully destroy. All these mean that you cannot really progress towards the state, although you can experience achievements while doing the various exercises, and you might have a greater chance to be in the meditative state if you already practiced spiritualism (and read some supportive spiritual literatures) although there’s no guarantee for that (especially if you are addicted to certain formal exercises, or if the real message didn’t really get through to you).

As I wrote it in my first book (“Meditation and the book of Time and Life Management” in which book you can also read about practical Time Management and Life path planning ideas and also about vegetarianism, healthy morals, how to live together, hologram theory and many other useful topics): „Meditation is the time-period in your day (usually allocated by you) when you live without thinking, but that you achieved only, because you reminded yourself that you should stop your thinking process. Meditation is not about controlling your mind, because in meditation mind does not exist, or to say it in other words: you don’t use your mind while you are in the meditative state. According to my definition, practicing meditation is impossible, but you can practice to be more aware of your thoughts, or rather to be more aware of the silence between 2 of your thoughts”. Please note further that when we are talking about meditation in the way like e.g.: “observing the silence between 2 of your thoughts”, there is still some effort in the whole process (at least in the form of a reminder, and in the form of occasional checks…), therefore the state in which you are through observing yourself is not equal to the 2nd phase meditative state (although don’t belittle the 1st phase as that is also a significant experience)!

The reason I prefer the term “not thinking” (even without mentioning the importance of stopping monitoring your “empty” mind or rather stopping monitoring the absence of your mind, which concerns only a very few people) compared to the commonly known definitions is, that if the goal of the activity is not to achieve the no-mind state (or if it is not emphasized) any other definition would be misleading (on every stage of your spiritual journey), and even if the exercise has nothing to do with meditation people can think that they meditate even though they don’t… The idea of not thinking can be easily incorporated into every spiritual supportive exercise that you are doing now (like e.g.: practicing different positions, doing mantra…) so from now on you could also have the no-mind state goal in mind while doing those exercises even if spiritual teachers insist that the no-mind state cannot be a goal. In reality even though they are right by stating this since you are either in it or not, I still think that people could progress better in the direction of leaving the mind behind if the no-mind state were more emphasized. I believe that it is easier to find something if you know where to look, and also what you are looking for or at least if you have some (even if just some vague) ideas about how to recognize that something (including all kinds of states) that you are looking for (even if later you have to drop that recognition as well as far as the meditative state is concerned -since at the end state if you are in it you don’t think about it but you just live your life without thoughts and again without constant monitoring, relying upon your feelings, certain habits etc.). And to make the whole thing a bit more complicated, at the end state you even have to stop monitoring whether you monitor your emptiness of your mind or not… and only than are you in the state of living in total bliss. So again: if you start thinking how great you are that you achieved the no-mind state (especially for only a few seconds) or if you monitor your emptiness of your mind with the purpose of whether it is empty or not (even if you don’t think), you automatically dropped out from the “advanced” state, although please note that the 1st phase of meditation can be extremely helpful while living your everyday life, as the 1st phase (so when your mind is empty but monitoring exists) helps you to overcome difficulties by bypassing negative thoughts and thus it has the innate quality in itself to bring you a much happier, fulfilling and balanced life, although what we experience and how we take things dependent on many factors!

Many spiritual literatures talk about e.g.: “Be present”, “Experience silence” or “be Now-Here”, “Let go”, “Be in this moment only”, “Face eternity, nothingness, or the all-ness”, “Be like small children”, “Have the Buddha nature”, and to achieve that they say that e.g.: “Be silent”, “Silence your mind”, “Clear your mind”, “Stop thinking” and “Forget about your past (it’s dead), and don’t worry about the future (it has not arrived yet) and face everything that the present moment provides” (which does not mean that you have to accept and be in any kinds of (especially negative) life situation permanently) … but all these wordings means the same: “Don’t think”, and remain in that state without effort and even forever. What I miss from these literatures is the direct mentioning of the importance of not thinking. Instead they always talk in parables that no-one really understand, which can result in the state that people stuck in listening to and looking for new methods, and stories, and they continue loosing themselves in buying more and more spiritual books, in switching from one method to the other and in wandering from one guru to an other (which is only disturbing if they happen to find many fake gurus (storytellers), who are in the spiritual business to fill their pocket with gold (which they achieve by repeating the words of some great enlightened masters without ever experiencing the truthfulness of those statements). Naturally all these searches will give people new experiences, new point of views, transformed (positiver) mindset (and also frustration and disappointment when the initial expectations are not fulfilled, which is usually the trigger moment to search for more or to drop out completely), but searching will not make you more meditative although there’s always the chance of bumping into good and helpful materials, self help books and there’s even a chance of becoming completely tired with the search which might result in a situation that you will sit under a tree and you will drop your whole effort and also your mind like it was the case with Siddhartha Gautama later known as The Buddha…

In reality the reason that the meditative state cannot be described and that it is easier to use metaphors while talking about it is because there are things that you can only experience through your feelings and senses and by being in the situation and in the experience. So e.g.: you cannot describe to someone who never ate a banana how a banana tastes, because talking like e.g.: it’s a bit like this and a bit like that is not how the banana tastes, and additionally there are many different stages of the banana and every stage is a bit different. You can eat green banana, yellowish green or greenish yellow banana, yellow banana, banana with brown dots, banana with more brown dots and a total brown banana…, plus you can eat cold and heated banana after various spices and foods, when you are thirsty or hungry or when you feel sick or happy, when you crave for a banana, or when you ate many of them which can naturally further alter the overall experience, not to mention that there are many environmental circumstances that will determine the taste and we also have to talk about the different species. In every stage of ripeness and in every situation they all tastes a bit different to the person and whether someone likes it or not it depends on the person who experiences it (and in that about the person’s ideas regarding the world, regarding him/herself and how he/she perceives his/her circumstances, what he/she experienced, whether he/she is closed or opened etc). And to get away from the banana example -as far as meditation is concerned the experience is highly dependent on how much time you can spend in the state without effort, and whether monitoring exists or not, since more and more time you can be in the state, more and more chance you’ve got to experience total bliss. So it makes no different whether you are a billionaire or whether you are poor, since no-thought is no-thought, but what you experience while being in that state can be different compared to what others experience, therefore even if you manage to give your best to describe your experience, others might experience something else, or rather others would describe their experiences differently (especially since there are many stages and thus different perspectives). You could naturally argue that billionaires have more chances of experiencing the various stages of ripeness and that they have more chances to alter their circumstances, but remember that their mind might be also full of rubbish and pointless desires that they cannot get rid of no matter what they try, and also remember that we can only talk about the stages in context of the different exercises and lifestyle, but experiencing the various stages is not a prerequisite for the state switch, which is in fact instantaneous.

But it looks like I went a little bit off-track and even if I shared the most important, key information I still continue writing this book and you are still reading it, although the only thing that you have to do from now on is to do your usual and non-violent exercises and activities incorporating the “Not-Thinking” goal in them. Naturally later I will give you some tips and methods but if you remember to the “not-thinking” goal (and later the stop monitoring goal or rather the “no-monitoring” goal) there’s really no need to read further.

Maybe the idea sounds a bit too simple, too cheap and you feel lots of doubts and suspicions but if you cannot live without thinking try it for a few days, months or years, especially since it doesn’t require extra time from your side as I will explain later in the book. So the first thing that you have to do if you want to get some experience is to make a little observation about yourself. With the observation your goal is to see whether you can stop your thoughts and whether you can live in that state for a few minutes or hours. So please stop with the reading and make that observation here and now.

The problem is naturally (if you were not successful stopping your thoughts), that you cannot argue with (from your point of view) the theory so the theory whether living without thoughts are beneficial or not (or whether it is a possibility or not) since you don’t have any direct experience regarding the “idea”. And top of all, this is one of those things that you cannot delegate for someone to do it for you, because this is something that no-one can do it for you, which means that you have to go through it alone. And remember that it is not about who is having the greatest collection of spiritual books, how many books you’ve read, how many official stages you passed, what rank do you have in an organization, or whether you possess any supernatural power or not, so you cannot even have an excuse that you are poor or that you need to pass an expensive exam that you cannot afford or that you have to travel to a holy place to meet with certain gurus (that you cannot afford), so you cannot really have any valid excuse for the delay of starting your transformation here and now. This is one of those fields where you do not have any advantages if you are rich (since again even if you are rich your mind can be still full of rubbish), which simply means that meditation is the same for everyone and that it is not dependent of wealth or any kinds of achievements. Everyone can just sit in an empty room or in a park or in a grass, but even if not you can even “do” it while walking, while lying on a flat surface, while taking a shower, while eating… so you don’t have to possess anything from the outside word and still you can meditate, since it’s all about stopping your thoughts (which might require some reminders and perseverance from your side).

Please note that I’m not saying that it is pointless to read books or that it is pointless to be around loving, supportive, positive and happy people since reading good books and listening to great ideas or being part of a loving commune or even just having a small animal companion can help you to get through certain life situations (especially to get through negative life situations), and all those things, activities and people can help you to feel more happy about yourself, to be more motivated, to discover thought and life-path changing ideas, to get closer to spiritualism and thus to ultimately experience a more balanced and more enjoyable life. And please note that even negativities have their own purposes (especially if we manage to pass them) since many times people bump into and get involved more deeply in spiritualism and in the uplifting, life changing ideas (including e.g.: leaving many negative and time wasting habits behind) while they are looking for solutions to tackle the various negativities in their life, and again at the end state this can result in a more fulfilling life compared to the life without those helpful ideas, since without them maybe we would be still watching TV or wasting all of our times on social sites and this we would do every day for years and years (becoming more and more bored with the whole thing although this negative boredom feeling might be a great help at some point of our life to be more and more opened to self-help books, spiritualism and uplifting ideas…). So continue with the readings, continue with the various experiences, but whatever you do remind yourself frequently to the importance of being in the no-mind state, and more importantly practice observing and being in the state as many times as you can, since maybe in one of your exhausted or happy moments and also even after forgetting all about the ideas you will be able to be in it without effort for a longer period of time or even forever. Doing some suggested exercises and having spiritual ambitions are important for those whose mind is conditioned especially with many negativities and unhealthy limitations (so almost for everyone) and books, people and ideas can be helpful to get ourselves out from negative life situations, especially if we are de-motivated, tired, depressed, sad, frustrated, without any emotional support, since we might discover ideas and thoughts (in those books and in those advices) that enable us to pass those situations as quickly as possible and to experience a much happier and brighter life (during and after the transformation).

So even if you were given the key information, if you did not pass the test that I suggested previously so if you had thoughts when I said stop for a few minutes go on with the reading, and read also my other book(s) and no matter what exercise you choose always remember to the no-mind state idea.

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